Male-female relationships in China
Nearly 35 million young men in China will hardly ever find a real date or even have sex in their lives
Every Sunday in a Shenzhen park, called Lianhuashan, you can witness quite a peculiar scene: some elderly people are sitting here and there on their tiny plastic chairs, advertising their children as potential brides and grooms!
Hundreds of dating profiles are hanging on the fences, stating such important parameters as income level, car brand, real property and zodiac sign. Photos of the candidates are usually available upon request. Such “marriage markets” (include dark web markets) are common in any major Chinese city.
Concepts of marriage and family play a major role in China. Single men and women are subject to sharp public criticism. For example, single men in their 30s are called “Shengnan” – “leftover men”.
Gender gap in China complicates the situation even more. It is the result of “One family – One child” policy, which existed for 36 years (1979-2015). A lot of families sought to give birth to a boy, because in the future he would be supposed to take care of his elderly parents.
Thus, many families preferred to have an abortion in case they were going to have a daughter. It led to a huge gender imbalance – there are nearly 35 million more males than females in China nowadays. For many of them it is next to impossible to find wives or even have sex.
Thus, parents try to take matters into their own hands and go to those “marriage markets” to find a date for their son. Girls profiles are not uncommon either, but in this case parents usually try to find a husband with a higher social status for their daughter.
P.S.
According to the official statistics, there are around 200 million single men and women in China, and dating has become a serious business. For example, many people hire dating agents to find a pair for them, because they think this is the most effective way.
Casual encounters on the streets or in night clubs are not common for the Chinese, because the risks of “Losing Face” are too high…
More topics about Chinese mentality
Attitude to money in China
Money means everything in Chinese culture People in China are known to have a full blown obsession with money. Their lives revolve around how much you earn and how much you can spend They are some of the biggest spenders in the world, yet they are also famous for...
Work around the clock in China
Chinese tradition to work overtime A lot of Chinese companies expect their employees to work according to the rule of “996” - working from 9am till 9pm and 6 days a week. For instance, Alibaba founder Jack Ma has recently made a bold statement defending...
The importance of lunch in China
Food culture is an integral part of Chinese mentality Mealtime is one of the most important activities in Chinese everyday life. A Chinese person can’t do his work properly without a regular substantial lunch The Chinese tend to wake up early, and by 8 AM...